20 Unexpected Ways To Revamp Your Romance

Most magazine articles, relationship books and couples’ therapists will tell you the best way to bring romance back into your love life is to appreciate each other, understand one another’s needs, or try new tricks in the bedroom. While bedroom tricks can be fun, they're not a long-term solution because they are about as effective as a Band-Aid on a broken leg: they don’t fix or address the real underlying problem.

All romances have ups and downs, but learning how to keep the romance alive isn't just about leaving flirty notes around the house. It goes much deeper. If you're in a relationship and the intimacy is in hibernation, it’s time to try something radically different.

Romantic relationships can be our greatest opportunity for learning about ourselves and how we relate to the world. Unfortunately, being in a relationship can also bring out our insecurities, fears, and issues from relationships in our past.

If you don't love yourself first, no relationship can work as well as you want it to.

I work with a lot of women in my workshops and private coaching sessions who feel stuck in life and who find their relationships emotionally exhausting.

So many of us lose ourselves in our romantic relationships; we try to morph into a version of who we think we should be, hoping our partner will love this version of us more than our true self.

Real and true love encourages us to be more of who we really are, not less.

I know from personal experience that the fastest way to create real romance is to dive into this list. When it comes to lasting love and keeping the romance alive, it's less about "we" and more about "me."

If you're ready to revamp your romance, these unexpected tips can help.

1. Forgive your past lovers.

2. Look in the mirror daily and tell yourself that you're beautiful.

3. Be your own best friend first.

4. Learn to laugh at yourself.

5. Support your partner’s growth.

6. Love more, worry less.

7. Stop comparing your relationship to those of other couples.

8. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt.

9. Choose compassion over fear.

10. Be more vulnerable.

11. Recognize the stories you tell yourself.

12. Let go of the need to be right.

13. Trust your own intuition.

14. Remember, love is supposed to be simple.

15. Don't postpone joy.

16. Listen without interrupting.

17. Focus on what is working rather than what's not.

18. Let go of trying to keep score.

19. Play like children together.

20. Believe in happily ever after.

If you want more tips on how to love your life more and add more romance, grab this FREE guide.

Shannon Kaiser

Author, Speaker
Shannon Kaiser is a best-selling author, international speaker, retreat leader, and teacher. Her much-anticipated new book, The Self-Love Experiment, will be released in August 2017. She’s been named on of the Top 100 Women to Watch in Wellness by mindbodygreen and "One of the freshest voices in mental health and wellness" by Chicken Soup for the Soul. Shannon's the founder of PlayWithTheWorld.com, named one of the Top 75 Personal Development Websites, and Top 100 Self-Help Blogs by the Institute for the Psychology of Eating. Her work has been recognized in media outlets across the globe such as HuffPost Live, Health Magazine, Australian Vogue, Women’s Health, Spirituality & Health, and Entrepreneur magazine. Everything Shannon does is to empower you to believe in and trust yourself, so you can live your ideal life. Grab a free "Manifest Your Ideal Life" meditation at PlayWithTheWorld.com. Connect on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter.
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