Stop Worrying! It's Getting In The Way Of Your Life
It’s an awesome sight to witness when someone sheds their shackles and allows their true light to shine, like my husband when he listens to his favorite band. When you know someone so well, you know their self-imposed limitations, you know their deepest regrets and their darkest fears. Yet in the presence of one magical element, they forget about all their woes, and they simply rise above it all. For a few moments, they become incandescent; they sparkle. When this is the creature you love, it’s exciting, it’s heart warming and it’s fulfilling.
It begs the question: What good is worry? Has anything good ever come of worrying?
I’m not immune to worry, but I am acutely aware of the ridiculous nature of worry.
When I was pregnant with my second child, I was worried about my son. He had always been an only child and he had always received 100% of my attention. I was worried that he would be jealous; I was worried he would feel left out; I was worried.
So I took parenting classes and I started sending him to a therapist. We had many things going on in our lives at that point. My mother was ill and quickly approaching death. I was in a new marriage that was going through growing pains, as new marriages tend to do. I felt therapy would do us both worlds of good.
In the end, when my daughter was born, my son fell madly in love with her. He is an incredible big brother. They have an adorable bond. She follows him around and mimics his every move. He plays with her and dotes on her. All that needless worry I entertained, all those sleepless nights...
What causes worry? Typically, it’s a reaction to not knowing the way something will work out. For the sake of simplicity, I’m concentrating here on worry about the future.
Who wants to torment herself like that? I would argue likely no one.
Here are three tips I’ve developed to stop the incessant, life-sucking practice of worry, as inspired via the teachings of Abraham-Hicks:
1. Feel appreciation for what is.
When you catch yourself sliding down that slippery slope of all consuming worry, take a deep breath. Turn to gratitude, which (like any worthwhile endeavor) is a practice. Take a moment to list your blessings. Concentrate on all the beauty and magic in the ordinary moments of your life. Before you know it, you’ll find yourself ensconced in the wonder of your life rather than being inundated with the agony of what might be. We don’t know how things might pan out. Instead of focusing on what could be, concentrate on what is. Make peace with where you are.
2. Have more fun.
Having fun is a lost art form. Many of us are so busy being responsible that we forget about the fantastic pastime of fun. When was the last time you let your hair down? When was the last time you had a date with your significant other? When was the last time you let yourself spontaneously dance and guffaw with glory? Isn’t it about time? A bonus of having more fun is that when you do, you have less fear. Fear less. Have more fun.
Like a healthy practice of gratitude, a healthy practice of meditation serves you in an immeasurable way. When you meditate, you quiet your mind. When you quiet your mind, you stop thought. And when you stop thought, you stop resistance. And when you stop resistance, you are able to enjoy the moment. It’s that simple. Meditate daily. You won’t regret it.
I hope you enjoy these three tips. They are serving me well, and we're all in this together...