We all have an interesting challenge to live with each day, a challenge you may feel controlled by even though you so desperately want to lead an easier and happier life.
This challenge is called your ego.
You probably recognize your ego when you brag about an accomplishment, about how you did something better than someone else. Yet the ego is also at work when you think you're the one who's less than someone else in some way. Either way, it creates separation between you and everyone else, but the fact is, you're not greater or lesser than anyone.
Here’s a few simple steps to get you kicking the comparison misery and superiority when it shows up:
1. Acknowledge when you're comparing yourself to others.
This isn’t always as clear cut as saying with superiority, “I am smarter than her,” or saying with misery, “She has a much flatter belly than me.” Although these are certainly examples of comparison, it can also take the form of more subtle comparisons with thoughts like, “What I have to say is more correct/important than what you have to say,” or, “I'm more special because I went through [x] challenging experience.”
2. Send love and give appreciation to others, no matter how much you may want to bring them down.
When you notice your thoughts saying you're less than someone else, remind yourself that you're just as amazing as everyone else. Instead of focusing on your perceived shortcomings, focus on what you love about yourself and focus on what you appreciate about the other person. Over time, you'll find you can appreciate others and be happy for them, rather than belittling yourself others. This practice will also make you like yourself a hell of a lot more as you choose a more loving road!
3. Commit to being your best.
The more you show up in your life to play big, to do exactly what makes you tick in the way that makes you tick, the more comfortable and satisfied you will be! You’ll be less likely to judge yourself negatively, because you’re so happy being you! Celebrating your own awesomeness is a wonderful thing. It’s only when you think you are more awesome than someone else that the ego has kicked in.
4. Use affirmations daily.
This will remind you that you and everyone else are perfect. Some suggestions that may resonate for you are below: