4 Simple Ways to Improve Your Self-Esteem

How you see yourself has an enormous impact on the rest of the world sees you. Feeling confident and being happy in your own skin stems from an authentic connection with your true self, and is likely to help you succeed.

Authentic confidence is sexy. I'm not talking about smugness or arrogance. Those qualities stem from insecurity and for many, are off-putting. Real confidence, the kind that attracts your soul mate, lands you a perfect job and makes all your dreams come true, is authentic and inviting.

After leaving the corporate world a few years ago and successfully launching my own freelance writing and coaching business, I have had to relearn a lot of traits. How to be confident is not one they teach you in school. 

Over the past few months, I have made it my full time job to look at my own insecurities and see how they are holding me back. What I found was a direct link between the amount of self-confidence I have and my happiness. Simply put, the more self-love I feel, the more confidant I am. The more I believe in myself the less I need validation or approval from others.

Here are 4 simple ways you can improve your own self-esteem: 

1. Remove what no longer serves you. 

Believing in yourself starts with removing the beliefs, situations and thought patterns that no longer serve you. This means focusing on what you want and letting it pull you into your future.

2. Focus on the positive. 

Focus on the positive for me, means staying in the light and choosing positive thoughts. When insecurities creep in, I immediately look at where they stem from. I work on forgiveness and look at the positive lessons learned from each past situation. Being positive also means being compassionate to yourself and others as well as appreciating the journey as much as the destination.

3. Take care of you. 

The fastest route to feeling good about you is taking care of yourself. Listen to your body when it tells you to sleep, eat, exercise and relax. Treat your body like the temple it really is. Allow your inner voice to reflect in every action you take. You will find your cravings for unhealthy things will lesson the more connected and confident you become.

4. Listen to your gut. 

Often we struggle with a decision because we do not listen to our gut. Weather you are trying to decide if you should return the guy's call, take the job, or pick toothpaste, your indecisiveness is usually the result of a lack of listening to your own inner voice. When you get clear about your own values, and true desires the confidence will allude naturally and effortlessly from your entire being.  

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About the Author

Shannon Kaiser has been labeled a modern thought leader on the rise by CafeTruth. She is the bestselling author of “Find Your Happy, an Inspirational Guide to Loving Life to Its Fullest,” and the founder of the website PlayWithTheWorld.com, which was awarded Top 75 Best Personal Growth Websites and top 100 Self-Help Blogs on the internet by The Institute for the Psychology of Eating. Connect on her author Facebook Page @Shannon Kaiser Writes or Twitter.

She left her successful career in advertising to follow her heart and be a writer, life coach, inspirational speaker, travel writer and author. She is a five-time contributing author to Chicken Soup for The Soul. Shannon’s work has been featured in media outlets such as Good Morning America, Good Day New York, and Inside Edition. She’s writing her next book The Mental Makeover (Berkley/ Penguin Random House 2015).