5 Reasons Your Relationship Has Lost Its Spark & How To Get The Spark Back

True intimacy is all about letting someone penetrate you (emotionally!), and you penetrate them right back. If you hold things back from your partner and spare them your deepest truth by telling white lies—or outright lies, even with the best intentions—that dishonesty mars your connection.

Radical honesty is bold. You throw your cards on the table to honor who you are and ask for what you really want.

Sexual energy is an immense power source that you can tap into to boost your physical, emotional, and spiritual vitality as a couple. If one or both partners isn't happy with their shared sex life—whether it's not enough sex, too much pressure, or just not the type of sex that you each really want—your connection will likely suffer. Having a mutually satisfying sexual life together, whatever that means to each of you, is important to creating warmth, spark, and aliveness in the relationship.

Even though you're a couple, you still need time and space to pursue those things that feed you as an individual. If you aren't being true to yourself, you are less attractive to your partner.

It can be easy to sacrifice your deeper needs for the sake of your relationship, but your soul food and the things that make your heart sing bring you deep fulfillment. When you are revitalized, you bring that juiciness back into your relationship.

There's a misconception that after a few months or a few years, there's a romantic drop-off where you stop being sexually or romantically interested in each other. But research shows that the relationships where passion fades away after a while are the ones where the couple initially held the belief that passion tends to fade away after a while. The truth is, typically the only thing that changes after a few years is the amount of effort being put into the relationship.

In the first few years, we put our new relationship at the top of our priority list. We nurture it. We make time for it.

Once that feels secured, we pay less attention. We drift.

People often say that they can't imagine being married to the same person for the rest of their lives, but if you and your partner are constantly growing and learning, you are different people all the time. So you aren't married to the same person for 30 years.

However, if you're committed to stagnation and no evolution in your life, then you'll definitely be married to the same person.

Some clear signs you're falling out of love include being less interested in spending time with them in general, getting easily annoyed by them, and no longer having meaningful relationships. That said, if you and your partner are both willing to put the effort in, it's possible to stop falling out of love with someone and get the relationship back on track.